Soul-Mating according to the
By Orna Ben-Shoshan *
Relationship and marriage,
according to the Kabbalah, must be based on spirituality. The connection
between two people starts with their mutual desire to discover the spiritual
realm and actualize the purpose of creation. Here is the philosophy behind love
and Marriage, and some interesting ethnicity.
The Kabbalah is the “Secret
Wisdom” – the occult/mystical aspect of Judaism. Its major motive is to shed a
light on the unseen workings of the universe. According to ancient writings,
the wisdom of the Kabbalah was given to Adam by Raziel the angel, after the
deportation from Paradise. A deep study of the
Kabbalah can help humans understand the mysteries of existence which are
unsolved by modern science, therefore – it is related to the scopes beyond
physics: the metaphysics.
In our search of a most
substantial zone in human life – love and romance, we should distinguish
between the theoretical (philosophical) aspects and the practical (Applicable)
aspects of the Kabbalah.
AS A SPIRITUAL PARTNERSHIP
Bondage between husband and
wife is seen by the Kabbalah as spiritual. Marriage gives the couple a
framework for spiritual development which they could not achieve as single
individuals. An interrelationship between two souls who thrive to reach the
higher realms becomes a powerful vessel that fortifies the reparation process.
A spiritually compatible couple is one of the most powerful forces in the universe
that no other force can quell.
Each individual thrives to
achieve the highest possible spiritual level during a life time. The Kabbalah
teaches us that any marriage which is empty of spirituality might harm both
sides and create misery and failure to reach the purpose of rectification.
A common phrase in traditional
Judaism says that “A man that does not have a wife is not a whole man” and: “A
man who does not have a wife lives without joy, blessings, goodness and peace”
A married couple whose marriage is loving and compassionate, have the light of
the divine shining over them.
The masculine aspect is seen
by the spiritual world as the affecting, influencing and “inspiring” side,
whose purpose is to strengthen the spiritual structure. The feminine aspect is
the passive or “receiving” side whose purpose is to be receptive to the
Although both feminine and masculine souls are
expected to do their spiritual work in physical life, the masculine soul has a
longer way to go: According to traditional Judaism, the man’s role in the
physical world is to observe religious rules, study the Torah, build a family
and maintain it financially, and on top of that – complete his spiritual
reform. On the other hand, a woman is not obligated to soul search and
reclamation. According to the religious principles she has to follow all the
commandments, but her spiritual repair is a passive one. One of her duties is
to assist the man with his spiritual amendment. The feminine energy is more
balanced and steady than the masculine. A woman has a better ability to give,
carry new life inside her, and contain. As her “vessel” is larger than the
man’s, the amount of light she is capable of absorbing is larger. This enables
the woman to connect with spirituality and the divine much more directly than a
An interesting theory says
that some women were reincarnated even though their spiritual revision was
completed, and the only reason for their return is to assist a man on his
WITH A RING
The custom of ring
consecration at the marriage ceremony started as a simple gesture of exchanging
gifts, and developed along generations to a tool of sacred covenant. The shape
of the ring has a substantial connection to the essence of marriage: A round
shape is eternal – and has no beginning and no end. This comes to remind of the
eternal force of the divine that surrounds the world.
Only when the two
halves are connected, they become “one” complete soul. And so it happens by the will
of God, that from the moment of birth until the moment of union the two halves
of the soul are departed and remote from each other. Sometimes the distance is
large and the two halves are oceans and continents apart. At the moment of
union, they become one essence.
From Summons it is known that
male and female were created together as their two bodies were connected at the
backs. There is no energetic connection and no interrelation between them until
they disconnect and turn face to face.
Rabbi Shimon said that a union
of male and female is called “Oneness” because a male without a female is considered
as “half person”. A man and a woman are considered by the Kabbalah as one soul
that its two halves were enrobed in two physical bodies.
PRIMARY YEARNING TO UNITE
In the spiritual realm, a soul
exists as an integral part of the eternal light – it is “pairing with the
divine”. The complete merge within the light gives it the utmost pleasure and
satisfaction. As the spiritual realm reflects in the physical realm, this
complete unity manifests in our world in the form of sexual union. Sexuality is
one of the strongest desires on earth, the root of all desires. When a soul is
reincarnated in the physical world, it still has a “memory” of the total union
with the divine. Therefore we can annotate the sexual desire as a preliminary
According to the Kabbalah,
each soul has twelve options to unite when it comes into the physical world:
Three options are blessed cosmic unions, based on spiritual attraction. Five
options of unity are called “Divine Matches” – that’s where you can find most
married couples. The most difficult unions are the four Karmatic versions,
which are based on unfinished issues from previous lives and the existence of
cosmic “contracts” between two souls. The potential to repair knotty relations
from past lives and reach harmony and peace in the present lifetime is the
greatest challenge of such unions.
Each human soul has a
designated soul to unite with in the physical realm. However, a person might
sometimes refuse the ordained spouse that was matched to him by the divine and
miss the opportunity to unite. Since everything is under the supervision of
God, an alternative mate will be found for him that would fit with his present
situation. Therefore, a person should never despair because the graceful God is
always watching to guarantee his fulfillment.
In some cases finding “the
right one” can be a lingering and frustrating journey. The “Practical Kabbalah”
sees it as a blockage in luck and the reason for it can be evaluated in several
methods. Looking into the sacred Zohar can sometimes give answers to such
problems. A given name may cause a person’s luck to be restricted or even cases
of casting the evil eye.
The Practical Kabbalah,
applies the knowledge of using names and sacred letter combinations. It has a
potential to solve problematic delays and setbacks that block the realization
of marriage. It is believed that the same way that God can cure illness - it
can also help to remove restrictions and barriers that stand in the way to
fulfillment. A little step done by a practical Kabbalist can open the doors to
luck in romance and relationships.
Practical Kabbalah is the
application of Kabbalistic principles in everyday life. Its principle is to
connect matter and the divine to achieve tangible results. It includes
Kabbalistic medicine, reincarnation and destiny analysis with the Zohar, the
usage of charms and amulets, healing and communicating with angels, special
prayers and even palmistry. As long as the application of Kabbalistic
principles is done purely, it can generate positive changes in a person’s life.
The Kabbalah forbids any act of manipulation, and encourages the preservation
of an individual’s free choice. It is only allowed as long as the practice does
not contradict the laws of nature, and refrain from black magic.
In many cultures, the issue of
mating has always been taken very seriously. Finding the right spouse was not
the concern of a single man or woman alone, but involved the whole community.
Jews who lived in the Diasporas have combined the wisdom of practical Kabbalah
together with local pagan traditions in order to assist singles in finding a
match and building a family.
The Kabbalistic expert had a
prominent position in the archaic community and was the authority to turn to
for help. The expert would write sacred scripts on parchment, using powerful
ancient symbols, wrapping them together with seeds or plants to carry around as
talismans. Some of the practical knowledge of the Kabbalah was passed inside
families and evolved along the generations. Many virtues and rituals were
applied to help young people who reached the age of marriage, and are still in
vast use today. Here are a few examples:
One way for a desperate young
woman to visualize her future husband, was by looking into a bowl filled with
water and oil. Amulets made of metal, feathers, plants and scripts of letter
combinations were prepared for single people to carry on their bodies until the
right match is found. Potions were made of red fruits mixed with a few drops of
blood were used to attract the love of a man or a woman. Using hairs or nails
of a desired person and burrow them in the ground next to their doorstep,
whispering spells at the night of a full moon, writing and applying substances
over a picture of a desired person, and so on.
Parents were instructed to implement special rituals to induce the
process of mating for their children. The right timing was always essential for
the success of these rituals, and as you can see, many of them were not
manipulation-free at all.
YOUR SOUL MATE
The major factor that a man or
a woman should consider when coming to choose a spouse is the spiritual
chemistry. According to the Kabbalah, matching between two souls should be done
by conscious choice. Therefore, it is essential to find a mate that will be
supportive of your spiritual development. Each side in the union should observe
the other as a free spirit who came to earth to fulfill a purpose, and no one may
restrict the other. A spouse should act as a ladder for the other person in
which he/she can climb to higher realms. This will ensure a happy marriage and
all the rest will take care of itself.
Keywords: Kabbalah, marriage,
relationships, love, spirituality, virtue, amulet, destiny, divine, matching,
soul, romance, couple, spouse, man, woman
|*Artist Orna Ben-Shoshan conceives
the images she paints through channeling. All of her paintings are
completed in her mind before she transfers them onto the canvas.
Her metaphysical work infuses deep spiritual experience with subtle humor.
Orna Ben-Shoshan has been an auto deduct artist for the past 30 years.
Her artwork was exhibited in numerous locations in the USA, Europe and
Israel. Her Major motivation as a visual artist is to share her visions
with others to expand their consciousness and inspire new ways of
To see more of her artwork, please visit: http://www.ben-shoshan.com
During 2008, Orna has embarked on a new and challenging project: Her
artwork became the theme of a new set of reading cards: "King Solomon
Cards", a new and innovative divination tool which combines her
metaphysical art with ancient Kabalistic symbols. To see more, please
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